Do Family & Friends Understand?
My hope for this page is to create a better understanding for the family/friends of us migraineurs. To be totally honest, for about a year, I was deep in rebound (also known as MOH) and grief. For the first time in my life, it was just my dad and me. My dad never had to know what I was dealing with medically because my mom was the one who took care of me when I was sick, knew when I was in so much pain and, made sure I went to my doctors’ appointments.
I could barely open my eyes for about six months. Everything was intensely painful. Understandably, my dad was frustrated with me quite often. Once I began to take steps to get my migraines under control, I felt the heaviness lift, and my dad saw that I was making progress. This was when I began my research into chronic migraine. I would send my dad facts about chronic migraine to help him understand.
This journey can be so lonely. While it’s probable that most of us have family members who have migraines, it is unlikely that we experience migraines in the same way. Both my parents and other family members have/had migraines, but my migraines are by far the most disabling. That’s why I love this chronic community.
I had to take steps to educate my dad about what I was dealing with. It takes work to understand invisible illnesses. We can look totally fine while our brains are in excruciating pain.
Now, my dad knows when I have migraines. He tries to be quiet if I’m not feeling well. He understands that I wish I could function like a “normal” person. My dad acknowledges and thanks me for what I can do. He asks me to rest after being productive. Am I the only one who is super productive on migraine-free days? If you have someone in your life who doesn’t think your pain is real or you’re exaggerating, kindly educate them. You are doing the best you can. Be proud of yourself.